What if you hit every goal you ever set — and still felt empty? Sam Kabert built a seven-figure business working less than 4 hours a day, landed on Silicon Valley's 40 Under 40 list, and then fell into a numbing depression. In this episode, Sam shares how that rock bottom moment sent him on a journey inward — and the two frameworks that can help you stop outsourcing your worth to your work: the Be, Do, Have model and SOUL/Life Balance.
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**Key Takeaways:**
- Outsourcing your worth to your work keeps you on a hamster wheel — no amount of external success fills the inner void
- The Be, Do, Have model flips the script: get clear on who you ARE first (be), then take action (do), then receive results (have)
- Matthew McConaughey's Oscar speech is a masterclass in envisioning your future self without needing to "arrive"
- Work-Life Balance is a double dose of yang (outer world) energy — SOUL/Life Balance adds the yin (inner world): mental, emotional, and spiritual health
- Blake Mycoskie, founder of TOMS Shoes, experienced depression and suicidal ideation after a $300M exit — a reminder that mission-driven success isn't a substitute for inner work
- Sadhana (a yogic daily practice) is the practical answer to "how do I actually live in the journey" — daily inner and outer world habits that make you feel whole
- Nervous system regulation through breathwork is the foundation before any mindset rewiring
- "To name your ultimate potential is to limit your ultimate potential" — presence in the journey is more powerful than any destination
- Workaholism, like any addiction, is often rooted in a deeper wound around worthiness
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**Chapters:**
00:00 Introduction & Sam's Background
01:00 Building a Seven-Figure Business — and Hitting Rock Bottom
01:46 Moving to Santa Cruz & the Journey Inward
02:11 The Moving Goalposts: Why Chasing Success Never Delivers
02:33 Blake Mycoskie, TOMS Shoes & Outsourcing Worth to Work
04:07 Unpacking "Outsourcing Your Worth to Your Work"
04:15 SOUL/Life Balance: Sam's Book and the Yin/Yang of Being & Doing
06:39 The Antidote: Be, Do, Have and SOUL/Life Mindset
07:37 Matthew McConaughey's Oscar Speech & the "Avatar" Concept
09:15 Why Work-Life Balance Misses the Mark
10:01 Adam's Retreat Insights: Trusting Yourself & Being Enough
11:15 Sadhana: A Daily Practice for the Inner and Outer World
13:14 Breathwork & Nervous System Regulation as the Starting Point
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**Resources Mentioned:**
- [SOUL/Life Balance by Sam Kabert](https://samkabert.com/soul-life-balance/)
- [Start Something That Matters by Blake Mycoskie](https://www.amazon.com/Start-Something-Matters-Blake-Mycoskie/dp/0812981448)
- Sam Kabert's website: [samkabert.com](http://samkabert.com)
- Sam on Instagram: [@samkabert](https://www.instagram.com/samkabert/?utm_source=mindfufire.org&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=podcast-with-adam)
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**About the Show:**
The Mindful FIRE podcast is a show about crafting a life you love and making work optional using mindfulness, financial independence, resilience and envisioning.
